Love Bites is a weekly segment on The South Shore’s Morning News with lifestyle coach Francesca Luca. You can listen for advice every Wednesday morning at 9:10. The Francesca Luca Show airs every Wednesday evening between 8 and 9pm.

Here is the listener question we are answering today:

What if the person you are with rarely texts? When you are together it is great just not a lot in between the weekly date

Don’t Confuse Breadcrumbs for a Meal

I see way too many women settling for crumbs and calling it a connection.

Here’s the truth: You’re not a pigeon, so stop pecking at breadcrumbs like it’s a five-course meal.
If a man is into you, you’ll know. Why? Because he’ll make it clear without you needing to guess or read between the very dry lines of his last two-word text.

A Man Who Wants to Talk to You… Will.

He won’t need nudging. He won’t ghost, breadcrumb, or drop one-word replies like it’s some kind of effort trophy.

LOVE BITES TIP:

When a man’s words are few and far between, listen closely, not to what he says, but to what he’s not saying.

Because here’s what’s real: Men make time for what they value.
No matter how busy or distracted he is, if he cares, you’ll feel it. Period.

Silence and Inconsistency Are Communication

Read that again.

When his texts slow down, when he gets weirdly quiet, when you’re left on read for the third time this week, that’s not an accident. It’s communication. And it’s telling you something important: his level of investment.

Love Bites Move: Step back. Just a little. Then watch.
Does he notice? Does he reach out? Or does the silence stretch on?

So What Could Else Be Going On With Him?

Let’s break down some of the usual suspects:

He’s Not Sure What He Wants Classic. When men are unsure of their feelings, they often pull back. Hence the inconsistent texting. But here’s the kicker:
That’s his struggle, not yours. Don’t carry emotional labor that doesn’t belong to you.

 He’s Genuinely Busy or Distracted

Work, stress, family issues, mental health, life happens. But if he’s into you, he’ll still find a way to communicate. A quick check-in isn’t hard. 

He’s Testing You

Some guys will intentionally pull back to see if you’ll chase them.
That’s not romance. That’s a power game. And trust me you don’t want play it. If you start chasing, you’re already losing.

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