Let’s talk about something most people experience… and almost nobody admits.
You’re happy at home. You’ve got a solid relationship. You love your partner.
And then there’s… him. The guy at work.
It starts small. A look that lingers half a second too long. A joke that feels just a little more charged than it should. You notice what he’s wearing. He notices when you change your hair.
There’s nothing happening; but there’s something there.
A shift in energy when you’re in the same room.
And now you’re asking yourself, “Is this harmless… or is this the beginning of something slippery?”
First, let’s normalize it. Feeling a flicker doesn’t mean you’re unhappy at home. It means you’re alive. But here’s where it matters, what you do with that undercurrent is everything.
A harmless crush stays harmless because it stays contained. You don’t feed it. You don’t linger in his office longer than necessary. You don’t start sharing pieces of your emotional world that belong in your relationship. No watering here.
Do you confide in him about frustrations at home?
Do you dress with him in mind? Do you look forward to work more than you know you should?
Would you feel uncomfortable if your partner stood right there during one of those “innocent” conversations? That’s the line.
The undercurrent itself isn’t the betrayal. Secrecy is.
Sometimes that office attraction isn’t about the other person at all. Maybe you miss being admired or miss playful energy.
Instead of panicking or pretending, just ask yourself what this is showing you.
Strong relationships don’t collapse because someone attractive walks into the building. They can grow stronger if you use moments like this as awareness instead of escape routes.
You can be committed and still be human. You can notice chemistry and still do the right thing.
Attraction isn’t the danger. Indulgence is.
You don’t cheat because you felt something.
You cheat because you fed the beast.
