Written by: Francesca Luca
No one escapes life without enduring heartbreaks and it’s no secret that struggling to release them is difficult. Reading relatable words can help us feel better but let’s face it, it’s not quite so easy to put those words into action, like “Just Let them”. That was the topic of conversation on my Friday morning segment, Love Bites on the South Shore Morning News 95.9FM where I join Rob and Beth every week.
What exactly is the Let Them Theory? Radical acceptance. As in, no matter what, “Let them”.
“If they want to choose something or someone over you, “Let them”.
If they want to go for a long time without talking to you, “Let them”.
If they don’t want to see you at all anymore, show them the door and “Let them”.
I personally love this one. If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, “Let them”.
“Let them” follow the crowd.
It’s alot of repetitive fluff. It’s not news and it’s not life changing. It’s just not that deep. And it looks to me like this is recycling an ancient practice.
I feel it has potential inherent flaws that could lead to disconnection both with yourself and with the relationship you are having an issue with. It suggests a “whatever” attitude which seems like somewhat of a coward’s way out. If there is an issue, whatever it is, I want to air it out. Then, if they want to be disappointed with how I feel, well then, “let them”.
What is good about this is that the theory’s suggestion is to focus on what you have in your control. After we have experienced hurt and the pain, we often create healthier boundaries for the next people we’ll meet.
Then, “let them” prove how worthy they are of your time.
“Let them” earn your forgiveness.
“Let them” make the necessary steps to be part of your life.
“Let them” love you.
We are all just human with a myriad of feelings. We love, we hate, we hurt and we get hurt. We experience many emotions. Not everyone can give us what we want and that’s normal.
So the person out there that wants to completely love you, “let them”!
In closing, love yourself enough to find someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life.
